Because I Said So. And Other Mom Things I Thought I’d Never Do or Say.

Because I Said So. And Other Mom Things I Thought I’d Never Do or Say.

I remember not being a mom. In fact I swore I would never be a mom. And then life changed and I here I am – a mom. Looking back at being a childless adult I have a clear recollection of how I thought things would be if I ever did become a parent. My child would be sweet, polite and never throw a tantrum in public. I would never let her have soda or “kid’s” cereal. I would always talk calmly and never yell at my child. I would be the perfect parent and raise the perfect child.

Are you done laughing yet? It’s ok. I’m laughing right along with you. Five years into this parenting thing and I’ve thrown out all of those ideals. It doesn’t mean I’ve given up raising a healthy, happy child and I’m pretty confident that I actually am a pretty good mom. But I’m not perfect. And my kid has had tantrums in public. I have used bribery to stop them. She does eat colorful, sweet cereal here and there and even though I try not to I have yelled at her.  Now, instead of rolling my eyes at those parents with screaming kids in the grocery store flash them a sympathetic smile. Being a parent is not easy. And I’m not sure I ever thought it was, but I never imagined just how hard it can be.

Occasionally I find myself doing or saying things that my mother did. Things I swore I never would. “Because I said so” is a perfect example. I hated when my mom said that to me. I wanted a reason. Now I realize that there are times that the only reason a child needs is precisely that – because your mother said so. I have also cleaned my daughter’s face with spit and a tissue, or spit and my finger if there is no tissue handy (which is often the case). Yep, you know you are a full fledged mother when…

As challenging as being a mom can be we all know that the rewards far, far outweigh the difficulties.  Having said that, there is no shame in admitting that it’s hard. That sometimes we struggle. That sometimes we might even question our abilities to do this. We get tired. We get scared. We get sad or even depressed. I remember as a new mom and the mantra I heard everywhere was “sleep when the baby sleeps.” Yeah right. Here’s the thing. My baby didn’t sleep. Seriously she had really bad reflux as an infant and if she was sleeping it was because I was holding her, pacing the house. And then we got over that and moved right into asthma (which is common in little ones that had reflux as a baby). Asthma for us meant sleepless nights as the little one coughed and coughed and the thing that helped most (in addition to her asthma medication of course) was, you guessed it – holding her. We now have the asthma under control (it’s almost gone!) and, if you read my blog you know this past year has been a hard one for my little girl and our entire family. Yes, this parenting thing is hard.

So what is a mom to do? How do we take care of ourselves when we are so busy taking care of others? It’s so easy to tell moms to take time for themselves but putting that into practice isn’t always that simple is it? I know for quite a while I was neglecting my own needs and my own health. I put myself last. And it’s not because I was trying to be a martyr but because I felt that I had no choice. But I made a conscience decision to change that. It’s not always easy but I now take the time to do things like get back to the gym on a regular basis, take a girl’s weekend getaway – things that in the end make me a better mother.

In this journey to be healthy again I’ve realized that it’s not going to be as easy as it once was. First, there are more demands on my time so even though I make sure my little one is getting a healthy diet I might struggle to find the time to do the same for myself. And, this is a big one, I’m older now. And being older comes with some new challenges. I have discovered that I can’t do this without a little help.  Sometimes I need a little something extra to keep me on track or even ahead of the game.

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It’s only been over the past few years that I have really taken an interest in supplements and how they can play an important role in my health (and my family’s health). In fact, it has been in dealing with my daughter’s various health issues that I have discovered just how much supplements can do. I know, without a doubt, that there have been a few key supplements (things like Omega3s, probiotics and vitamin d) that have really had an impact for my daughter. So, it just made sense that when I finally decided to take better care of myself that I look into supplements for myself. Luckily I didn’t have to look far. Orange Naturals has a whole line up of natural products to support women’s health.  Over the past year I have started to use a few of these products:

I am a mom, first and foremost. And I realize that not everyone agrees with putting motherhood ahead of themselves is the best way to go. But I have worked really hard recently on making myself a priority, even if it’s not always my first priority. And I feel good about that. And I’m thankful for a husband that supports me in my goals and that I’ve also found some natural products that I not only feel comfortable taking because they are from a Canadian brand that I trust, but they actually work.

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No matter what your health goals or concerns are, Orange Naturals has something to help you get there.  Be sure to stop by the #onatural blog to get lots of great tips and advice for feeling your best and keeping your entire family healthy. You can also find Orange Naturals on Facebook for more information.

Disclosure: I am part of the Orange Naturals Mom Ambassador Program and I receive special perks as part of my affiliation with this group. The opinions on this blog are my own.

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This article has 18 comments

  1. Had a lovely brunch!

  2. Stephanie LaPlante
    Saturday 30 May 2015, 9:44 am

    We celebrated at home with big gifts and a BBQ

  3. I visited my parents and we went out for lunch.

  4. We went for brunch.

  5. We didn’t really celebrate this year though I really wanted too. Myself and my oldest daughter were fighting a bad cold. Though my husband did give me flowers!

  6. I visited my mother for Mother's Day and four weeks later I am still here. 

  7. my hubby took the kids out..good man rafflecopter charityk

  8. My kids made me breakfast in bed and then they gave me all the wonderful presets that they made me.

  9. We went yard saling and then had a BBQ – so much fun with the kids!

  10. I took my whole family and mom of course included to a sunday brunch at a hotel! It was great … the seafood was soo good.

  11. We had a wonderful dinner with my mom and my sister

  12. I was fortunate enough on Mother’s Day to see all of my 5 kids, and my 2 precious grand daughter’s! I know how you feel as I had one child with acid reflux and a sliding hernia! They wanted to operate and we decided to see if he would grow out of it. He is a strapping young man now with some issues but it is definitely under control. I didn’t know about the risk for asthma, my little GD has reflux now 🙂 tysm

  13. went to dinner and the movies with family

  14. sadly I had to work:(

  15. The kids made me pictures/cards, and my husband bought me a box of chocolates. That was it, nothing much. 

  16. We went to my sister's for Mothers Day.

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